Why It’s Vital For Everyone to Learn About Polyamory
It’s time to deconstruct modern relationships and create something healthier and more ethical (even when it’s monogamous)
The Question Needed To Begin A Healthy Polyamorous Relationship
How to express and understand what you are looking for at the start of a new polyamorous relationship.
Green Flags in Polyamory: Being Happy Being Alone
Polyamory isn't about using people to hide from yourself.
Let’s Talk About Platonic Romance
I’ve long been a proponent of platonic romance. The only reason people find it strange is because of a lack of understanding and education about relationships and the puritanical idea that romance and sex must be reserved for a single person.
So, let’s talk about platonic romance.
Polyamory Does Not Equal Consent
If you have ever had a partner use an argument along the lines of "Well, you agreed to an open relationship, so what I did was fine," then they are not thinking about you as a person but as a tool to fulfil their needs and fantasies.
They are not looking at you as a human being but as an object to be manipulated and used.
Should You Date Someone New to Polyamory?
Everyone needs to start their polyamory journey somewhere, but who takes on responsibility for teaching them?
Healthy Reasons to be Polyamorous: Exploring and Developing your Identity
While it’s important to recognise that there are many unhealthy reasons to begin exploring polyamory, these are outweighed many times over by the valid and healthy reasons there are to start this journey, either alone or with a partner.
So let’s take a look at one of the many reasons to explore polyamory: Exploring and developing your identity.
Healthy Reasons to be Polyamorous: Fulfilling Your Needs
While it’s important to recognise that there are many unhealthy reasons to begin exploring polyamory, these are outweighed many times over by the valid and healthy reasons there are to start this journey, either alone or with a partner.
So let’s take a look at one of the many reasons to explore polyamory: Fulfilling your and your partners’ needs.
What is Parallel Polyamory?
While some people love the idea of combining their polycules into one big happy family (often known as Kitchen Table Polyamory), others prefer to keep each relationship as a separate entity where their partners know about each other but have no desire to spend time together as a unit. This is called "Parallel Polyamory".
Healthy Reasons to be Polyamorous: An Expression of Political Values
While it’s important to recognise that there are many unhealthy reasons to begin exploring polyamory, these are outweighed many times over by the valid and healthy reasons there are to start this journey, either alone or with a partner.
So let’s take a look at one of the many reasons to explore polyamory: An expression of political values.
Healthy Reasons to be Polyamorous: An Exploration of Identity
While it’s important to recognise that there are many unhealthy reasons to begin exploring polyamory, these are outweighed many times over by the valid and healthy reasons there are to start this journey, either alone or with a partner.
So let’s take a look at one of the many reasons to explore polyamory: The desire to explore your identity.
How to Find Compersion in Polyamory
Compersion in polyamory may be difficult, but it is never impossible. And, if you do the work and open yourself to the idea, then compersion may appear when you least expect it.
Is it Okay to Keep Being Polyamorous a Secret?
Is it okay to keep being polyamorous a secret?
Everyone gets to choose how open they are. And unfortunately, sometimes people have no choice but to hide their polyamory from the world for their own safety.
Is Polyamory Cheating?
It's a question many of us find distasteful, so often do we hear it. But as much as we hate hearing it, it can't be denied it's an understandable mistake. So let’s take a look at it, shall we?
Dealing with Jealousy in Polyamory
I’ll let you into a little secret. Jealousy doesn’t have to rule your life. While we might not be able to avoid it, there’s a trick you can learn to dismantle the power it has over you.
How To Make Polyamory Work for You When Things Get Hard
Ethical non-monogamy isn't a homogeneous blob. When you decide to move beyond monogamy, you don't simply take off one suit and put on another. And herein lies the problem. It's a fundamental misunderstanding of what ethical non-monogamy is.
So I want to talk about something I call The Polyamory Sweetshop.
How Do I Ask Out My Friend’s Girlfriend?
While it’s not a deal-breaker in polyamory, can you suppose ask out your friend's girlfriend when that friend is right there?
Red Flags in Polyamory: Refusing Labels
While it's fine that someone may want to avoid using certain labels in polyamory, refusing to use any at all is a Polyamory Red Flag.
Red Flags in Polyamory: Pushy/Pressurised Polyamory
There can be a fine line between encouraging someone to try something new and pressuring them into something they don't want to do. This is why you need to be aware of the Polyamory Red Flag of Pushy or Pressurised Polyamory.
Red Flags in Polyamory: Pretend/Uncertain Polyamory
Sometimes, when you're certain about something, it can be difficult to see that other people don't feel the same way.