Review: “Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality” by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jethá
If monogamy is supposed to be humanity’s natural state, why do we historically find it so hard? But if it’s not, why have so many scientists claimed to have proven it is? Perhaps it’s time to address the way bias has informed anthropology for centuries, and consider that we might not understand relationships as well as we think we do.
The Art of the Relationship Check-In
It might feel strange at first, but regular active Check-Ins could be the key to saving your relationships.
Yes, You Could Be Polyamorous (Even If You Don’t Want To Be)
Every one of us is capable of exploring polyamory, and thinking you “couldn’t” is a very dangerous sign for your other relationships.
Is Compersion the Opposite of Jealousy?
Exploring polyamory doesn’t involve ridding ourselves of jealousy (because that’s not only impossible but also unnecessary)
Ethical, Consensual, or Just Plain Old Non-Monogamy?
Do we really need to use qualifiers when talking about non-monogamy, and if so, why?
Healthy Reasons to Explore Polyamory: Maintaining Personal Autonomy
Maintaining autonomy and prioritising yourself in your relationships benefits not only you, but also your partners.
The Different Types of Polyamory
It’s vital to know the different types of polyamory because the reason you might believe polyamory doesn’t work might be because you simply don’t know there is more than one option available.
Review: “The Ethical Slut (3rd Ed.)” by Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton
When a piece of media is so iconic, when it is so prolific on bookshelves across the polyamorous community, it creates an incredibly high standard that all but challenges me to find flaws. Could The Ethical Slut really be as good as everyone says?
Yes. Yes, it could. I just don’t think it’s actually about polyamory.
What’s The Best Way To Get Into Polyamory?
What sort of relationship is the best if you want your journey into polyamory is start off on the right foot?
Green Flags in Polyamory: Active Communication
We are taught how to talk but not how to actively communicate, and without active communication, polyamory is infinitely harder.
The Dangers of Fetishising Sexuality in Polyamory
A reminder to straight men (and others) that your partner’s sexuality isn’t about your pleasure.
Why Do We All Hate Unicorn Hunters?
What are Unicorn Hunters, why do they have such a bad reputation, and why might they not deserve it?
Review: “Is Monogamy Dead?” by Rosie Wilby
I've always argued that sometimes you can only learn more about certain things, such as relationships, when you look at them from a new angle, and this is exactly what Wilby gives us; an open and non-judgemental exploration of non-monogamy from a monogamous viewpoint.
Green Flags in Polyamory: Actively Learning About Relationships
Society doesn’t teach us how to build healthy relationships, so look out for people who seek to learn by themselves.
What is Compersion?
If there is one word you will find yourself seeing a lot when you start your journey into polyamory, it will be the word "compersion". But what exactly is compersion, and why is it such a big part of people's discussions about ethical non-monogamy? Let’s take a closer look at it, its relationship with jealousy, and how it might be the key to healthier relationships.
Review: “polywise: A Deeper Dive in Navigating Open Relationships” By Jessica Fern with David Cooley
Between this book and her previous book, polysecure, I have become a big fan of Jessica Fern's work. And of the two, in my opinion, polywise is the superior book, offering easy-to-digest breakdowns of some of the root causes of the problems many of us suffer through when opening up our relationships and the advice and frameworks needed to navigate them.
Why It’s Vital For Everyone to Learn About Polyamory
It’s time to deconstruct modern relationships and create something healthier and more ethical (even when it’s monogamous)
What do you do When Your Partner Goes Through a Breakup?
Polyamorous breakups are difficult. Things are going to change, but you have to remember this is not about you.
Should You Date Someone New to Polyamory?
Everyone needs to start their polyamory journey somewhere, but who takes on responsibility for teaching them?
Healthy Reasons to Explore Polyamory: Exploring and Developing your Identity
While it’s important to recognise that there are many unhealthy reasons to begin exploring polyamory, these are outweighed many times over by the valid and healthy reasons there are to start this journey, either alone or with a partner.
So let’s take a look at one of the many reasons to explore polyamory: Exploring and developing your identity.